CHILD ABUSE : MEANING.

 Any intentional harm or mistreatment to a child under 18 years old is considered child abuse. Child abuse takes many forms which often occur at the same time. 

↗PHYSICAL ABUSE: 

Physical child abuse occurs when a child is purposely physically injured or put at risk of harm by another person. 

↗SEXUAL ABUSE:

Sexual child abuse is any sexual activity with a child such as fondling, oral-genital contact, intercourse, exploitation or exposure to child ponography. 

↗EMOTIONAL ABUSE:

Emotional child abuse means injuring a child's self-esteem or emotional well-being. It includes verbal and emotional assault such as continually belittling or berating a child as well as isolating, ignoring or rejecting a child. Most parents victim of this without knowing. 

↗MEDICAL ABUSE :

Medical child abuse occurs when someone gives false information about illness in a child that requires medical attention, putting child at risk of injury and unnecessary medical care. 

↗NEGLECT :

Child neglect is failure to provide adequate food, shelter, affection, supervision, education, or dental or medical care. Most of us are guilty of this. We don't have time for our children. We leave them in the hands of care givers claiming we don't have time or we are making money for their comfort. Please create time for your children.

In many cases, child abuse is done by someone the child knows and trusts often from a parent or other relative. If you suspect child abuse, report the abuse to the proper authorities.

Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.

UNHEALTHY COMPARISON 2

 Instead of comparison:

🔷Empathize with your child.

🔷Compliment your child for good character and behaviour rather than material accomplishments. 

🔷Say " I love you for who you are".

🔷Spend one on one time with your child.

🔷Participate in activities that engage the mind and body.

🔷Share some interesting childhood memories with the child so that the child will remember how he/she has been.

Parenting is the most difficult job in the world and there is no such thing as the "ideal parent". But, we are the first teachers of our children. We are the ones they look up to and we are the ones they come to when they are low. So, it is our duty to strive to put our best foot forward, to let our kids grow each day in a positive environment. Let us tell them every day how special they are.

UNHEALTHY COMPARISON

 No two persons where born the same. Every child has his or her own destiny. Comparison is the theif of JOY. It makes one feel negatively about oneself most of the time.

The words cruise out of your mouths inadvertently. "Look at him/her, she is so much better than you" or "Why can't you be more like him/her?". Why do we compare our children with others? As much as we want to refrain from it, we end up doing it. Is it an inevitable human trait or can we resist the impulse if we try?

Well, "comparison" is counter-productive for anyone. But it is all the more debasing for children. Children are tender beings and they do not take too well to negative criticism. And if the criticism involves telling them how others are better than they are in some way, then it is all the more painful. This does not mean that we shouldn't point out their mistakes and help them improve, but anything beyond this is overkill.

Every child is different. In the present age, where competition has spread its tentacles in every walk of life, it is crucial to teach our kids to be grounded. And comparing them at each step will just not help. They should be taught to better themselves with each day, not to be better than their counterparts.

Reasons you should not compare your children with others:

🔶It will cause self-doubt.

🔶Jealousy will take root.

🔶It will breed negativity. 

🔶It will damage the parent-child relationship. 

🔶They will grow into jittery and nervous adults.

LEAD THEM ARIGHT

 Which way Nigeria 

Which way to go 

I love my father's land 

I want to know 

Let's save Nigeria 

So Nigeria won't die 

Words by Sonny okosun. 

I wonder how today will end, something that started with a peaceful demonstration turns bloody.

#endsars

#endpolicebrutality

Most of us have stories to tell as regards to police brutality. I was taught that democracy is the government of the people, for the people and by the people. This implies that the country's decision is based on the decision of the people. Is this really viable in Nigeria?

 I woke up this morning prepared for work and on reaching my work place, we were told that we won't be working today due to the protest. I heard gunshots, people running Helter Skelter for their dear lives, you know the saying "you only live once" so much chaos. In fact someone got shot you can imagine that, people not having value for Life. How did we get here? I know for sure that one day, we will sing the songs of FREEDOM. I am certain that one day the wicked will give way. Yes even in the scriptures, when Athaliah felt she was untouchable and she did all manner of athrocites and impunity, she never knew that Joash was getting prepared for the throne. The day Joash became the king, it was like a dream. Joash became king at the age of seven and he ruled well. Remember the daughter of a king took care of him and groomed him, not even his parents. 

There are so many Joash's out there today. Every child needs opportunity to be loved, taking care of and nurtured. It is our responsibility as adults to help these children out. You might not have money to train them but your words of encouragement, advice, prayers, care matters a lot to them. Don't say they are not your children, help them in any way you can. Who knows, one of them could be a leader tomorrow. The good vibes you inculcate in them can make them better leaders of tomorrow.

God help us 

God save our children 

God save Nigeria.

#endsars

#endpolicebrutality 

#forabetternigeria

INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE GIRL CHILD.

 The girl-child: a young female child.

*   G -GENUINE

*   I - INTELLECTUAL

*   R - RESPECTED

*   L - LUCKY

Empowering women and girls and promoting gender equality is crucial to accelerating sustainable development. Ending all forms of discrimination against women and girls is not only a basic human right, but it also has a multiplier effect across all other development areas.

These rights include the right to live free from violence, slavery, and discrimination; to be educated; to own property; to vote; and to earn a fair and equal wage. As the now-famous saying goes, “women's rights are human rights.” That is to say, women are entitled to all of these rights.

Did you know?

Worldwide, nearly 1 in 4 girls aged 15–19 years is neither employed nor in education or training compared to 1 in 10 boys of the same age. By 2021 around 435 million women and girls will be living on less than $1.90 a day — including 47 million pushed into poverty as a result of COVID-19.

1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced physical or sexual violence. Emerging data shows that since the outbreak of COVID-19, violence against women and girls (VAWG), and particularly domestic violence, has INTENSIFIED. Research has it that thousands of girls and young women have shared their stories of harassment and violence which provided a never-before seen glimpse of what happens to them in their cities and the impact this has on their lives. Like we see so many examples during lock down. This calls for specific actions to allow girls and young women to live without experiencing fear or discrimination on our streets.

At least 60% of countries still discriminate against daughters’ rights to inherit land and non-land assets in either law or practice.

Today’s more than 1.1 billion girls are poised to take on the future. Every day, girls are breaking boundaries and barriers, tackling issues like child marriage, education inequality, violence, climate justice, and inequitable access to healthcare. Girls are proving they are unstoppable. 

WHAT SHOULD I DO DURING A TANTRUM?

Keep your cool when responding to a tantrum. Don't complicate the problem with your own frustration or anger. Remind yourself that your job is helping your child learn to calm down. So you need to be calm too.

Tantrums should be handled differently depending on why your child is upset. Sometimes, you may need to provide comfort. If your child is tired or hungry, it's time for a nap or a snack. Other times, its best to ignore an outburst or distract your child with a new activity.

If a tantrum is happening to get attention from parents, one of the best ways to reduce this behavior is to ignore it. If a tantrum happens after your child is refused something, stay calm and don't give a lot of explanations for why your child can't have what he wants. Move on to another activity with your child.

If a tantrum happens after your child is told to do something she does not want to do, it's best to ignore the tantrum. But be sure that you follow through on having your child complete the task after she is calm.

Kids who are in danger of hurting themselves or others during a tantrum should be taken to a quiet, safe place to calm down. This also applies to tantrums in public places.

If a safety issue is involved and a toddler repeats the forbidden behavior after being told to stop, use a time-out or hold the child firmly for several minutes. Be consistent. Don't give in on safety issues.

Preschoolers and older kids are more likely to use tantrums to get their way if they've learned that this behavior works. For school-age kids, it's appropriate to send them to their rooms to cool off while paying little attention to the behavior.

Rather than setting a specific time limit, tell your child to stay in the room until he or she regains control. This is empowering — kids can affect the outcome by their own actions, and thus gain a sense of control that was lost during the tantrum. But if the time-out is for a tantrum plus negative behavior (such as hitting), set a time limit.

Do not reward your child's tantrum by giving in. This will only prove to your little one that the tantrum was effective.

HOW TO AVOID TANTRUMS

Try to prevent tantrums from happening in the first place, whenever possible. Here are some ideas that may help:

Give plenty of positive attention. Get in the habit of catching your child being good. Reward your little one with praise and attention for positive behavior.

Try to give toddlers some control over little things. Offer minor choices such as "Do you want orange juice or apple juice?" or "Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath?" This way, you aren't asking "Do you want to brush your teeth now?" — which inevitably will be answered "no."

Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach. This makes struggles less likely. Obviously, this isn't always possible, especially outside of the home where the environment can't be controlled.

Distract your child. Take advantage of your little one's short attention span by offering something else in place of what they can't have. Start a new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one. Or simply change the environment. Take your toddler outside or inside or move to a different room.

Help kids learn new skills and succeed. Help kids learn to do things. Praise them to help them feel proud of what they can do. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.

Consider the request carefully when your child wants something. Is it outrageous? Maybe it isn't. Choose your battles.

Know your child's limits. If you know your toddler is tired, it's not the best time to go grocery shopping or try to squeeze in one more errand.

INDEPENDENCE MESSAGE : NIGERIA @ 60

Independence Day is an official national holiday in Nigeria, celebrated on the 1st of October every year. So going with Nigeria's calendar, today being the 1st of October is Independence Day. 

There is this song I had while growing up, sung by a child. It goes thus: 

I know a lot about my country 

I know a lot because I care 

I know a lot about my country 

I know a lot because I care 

Nigeria my beloved country 

Working together is so sweet 

Nigeria my beloved country 

Our future is you and me. 

These words made me picture what I will be in future back then. So the question is: How do we want the future of this country to be? The future lies in our children because they are the future leaders , please let's help them be responsible leaders of tomorrow. Also always pray for The Peace of our nation. One nation bound in freedom, peace and unity. Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria. HAPPY INDEPENDENCE.

Tantrums : What you need to know.

 Tantrums: a sudden short period when someone, especially a child, behaves very angrily and unreasonably.

T- Terrible

A- Annoy

N- Nasty

T-  Threatening 

R- Revenge

U- Upset

M- Mean (violent )

S- Sad

Temper tantrums are unpleasant and disruptive behaviors or emotional outbursts. They often occur in response to unmet needs or desires. Tantrums are more likely to occur in younger children or others who cannot express their needs or control their emotions when they are frustrated.

Tantrums can be frustrating for any parent. But instead of looking at them as disasters, treat tantrums as opportunities for education.

Temper tantrums range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding. They're equally common in boys and girls and usually happen between the ages of 1 to 3.

Some kids may have tantrums often, and others have them rarely. Tantrums are a normal part of child development. They're how young children show that they're upset or frustrated.

Tantrums may happen when kids are tired, hungry, or uncomfortable. They can have a meltdown because they can't get something (like a toy or a parent) to do what they want. Learning to deal with frustration is a skill that children gain over time.

Tantrums are common during the second year of life, when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.

Toddlers want independence and control over their environment — more than they can actually handle. This can lead to power struggles as a child thinks "I can do it myself" or "I want it, give it to me." When kids discover that they can't do it and can't have everything they want, they may have a tantrum.

ARROGANCE IN CHILDREN : DEAL WITH IT.

Arrogance stems from negative emotions, and from its stems impulsive and dangerous behaviours. Though not all egocentric behaviour is by default problematic, as a parent you should at least be aware of the reason for this behaviour. 

I guess the problem is that most parents do not know when they have arrogant children. You might not see it when they are with you, but when they are with their peers or even people older than them.

What are these behaviours? 

📌Putting blame on others , not accepting their wrongs.

📌Like to interrupt 

📌Have the believe that they are better than others.

📌They loved to be talked about.

📌They can't stand people who are not like them.

📌Seeking for attention by raising false alarm

The above examples could be traced back to the way we parent which comes in two forms: Pompous parenting and Inattentive parenting. Being pompous teaches a child that vanity is acceptable while being inattentive gives children and impetus to draw attention to themselves. 

Side effects of arrogance include:

🔸Bullying other children. 

🔸Cheating 

🔸Playing dangerously. 

How to deal with it.

📍Talk to your child in non-judgmental fashion.

📍Ask questions triggering your child to reflect on his behaviour.  

📍Locate the negative emotions driving the behaviour - inferiority complex or need for attention. 

📍Discussion and agree on how to handle those emotions. 

📍Let the child know the consequences of such arrogant behaviours.

PERSISTENCE

 Persistence means the fact of continuing in an opinion or course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition. Persistence is a very important trait to develop in life because it is intimately interlinked with ones own personal development and self-improvement. You will only get better in life by failing at things, learning from those experiences and moving on. So this trait is very much needed in parenting. For example, when you see that a particular negative issue or bad habbit you are trying to correct in a child proves abortive, persistence comes in.

PERSISTENCE stands for:

P- Perfect

E- Effortless

R- Rewarding 

S- Simple

I- Intelligent 

S- Secure

T- Trusting

E- Effective 

N- Natural 

C- Clean 

E- Earnest

AVOID BAD UPBRINGING

And say, What is thy mother? A lioness: she lay down among lions, she nourished her whelps among young lions.

 And she brought up one of her whelps: it became a young lion, and it learned to catch the prey; it devoured men.

The nations also heard of him; he was taken in their pit, and they brought him with chains unto the land of Egypt.

Now when she saw that she had waited, and her hope was lost, then she took another of her whelps, and made him a young lion.

And he went up and down among the lions, he became a young lion, and learned to catch the prey, and devoured men.

And he knew their desolate palaces, and he laid waste their cities; and the land was desolate, and the fulness thereof, by the noise of his roaring. 

Parents should note that feeding, clothing and provision of formal education are not their only responsibilities. The quality of your children's life is dependent on whatever you sow into them. It is what you so that you will reap. The godly lifestyle and influence of parents go a long way in helping children make decisions for Christ. Children are the sum of what parents contribute to their lives. Practice what you preach.

 

MAN UP

Telling someone is the first step to take in solving this problem. Keep telling until something is done. Learning the facts is the first step to preventing child sexual abuse. 

Do you know that:

1) 90% of child abuse cases are perpetuated by a family member or other trusted person.

 2) 30% of perpetrators are family members of the Victim. 

3) Any form of abuse during childhood becomes included in the brain. The memories become tyrannical, heightening the risk of high rates of depression, anxiety disorders, low self-esteem, post-traumatic stress orsuicide. 

4) According to studies compared to those with no history of sexual abuse, young males who were sexually abused were more likely to cause teen pregnancy and three times more likely to have multiple sexual partners.

5) One in four girls and one in ten boys will be sexually abused by age 15.

You can help out as an adult by listening and being attentive to your children and wards. Teach them to "man up" in other words speak up so that they can be helped. These children are our future so let's help them so that our future will be better.

PLAYFUL PARENTING

 Play can be the  long-sought bridge back to that deep emotional bond between parent and child. It can also ease the stress of parenting. Playful parenting is a way to enter a child's world, on the child's terms, in order to foster closeness, confidence and collection.We all know that children love playing, it's their work. That is their own way of learning skills, getting along with others and expressing emotions. Kids are more physical than adults. When they get wound up emotionally, their body needs to discharge all that energy. That's one of the reasons they have so much more energy than we the adults do, so they wear us out. We can use this at our own advantage because when we play physical games with them, they get tired and exhausted having no strength for tantrums to discharge. Though tiring, it helps one ease stress. So when your child asks to play, make a deal. It won't take much time but it will help on the long run to get along with that child. Whatever game you choose to play with your child, once they get used to it be rest assured they will keep coming for more.

HOW TO BUILD GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD.

 To be a great parent, to raise a happy, healthy and well behaved kid, you have to create a closer connection with your child. Telling your children you love them is not enough. We need to put our love into action everyday for them to feel it. This can be done by making the connection with our children our priorities, seeing things from our children's point of view and always remember that these children who sometimes drives us crazy is still the precious baby we welcomed into our arms with such hope. You can bear me witness that attending to a child energizes us and makes us feel more alive. So many people always have the regrets of not getting closer to people in their lives.

Your relationship with your child needs positive attention to work. Attention = love. What you attend to flourishes. That kind of attentiveness might take time but you can multitask and create a quality time with your child.

How can this be achieved? 

• Try connecting with the child from the beginning. 
• All relationships take work. You don't stop trying. 
• Prioritize time with your child. 
• Start your relationship with trust. Don't walk away from relating with the child even if you are frustrated. 
• Encourage , encourage, encourage. 
• Respect must be mutual.
• Think of relationships as a gradual increase of daily interactions. 
• Try communicating with your child. 
• Don't take it personally when he/she annoys you.
• Don't let little rifts build up.
• Re-connect after every separation.
• If you must discipline, do that with love.
• Be available. 

May all our efforts to train our children in the right way be crowned with success. Amen.

STAYING CONNECTED WITH YOUR CHILD.

  Life with it's infinite distraction and constant separations , has a way of eroding connections. All parents need to repeatedly reconnect with their children, just to repair the daily erosion created by life's normal seperation and distractions. While our children are separated from us, they hold unto other things around them : their teacher, their peers, their computer, phones etc. Effective parenting is almost impossible until the positive connection with our child has been re-established. How can we achieve this?

📌 Place a premium on relationships in your family. 

📌 Acknowledge relationships and separations.

📌 When you physically reconnect, consciously refocus your attention. 

📌 Keep distractions to a minimum. 

📌 Attune to your child's mood.

📌 Connect on their level.

📌 Everyone needs you and me time.

📌 Do repair work as necessary if you are not reconnecting with your child. 

CONNECTING PARENTING.

 This is prioritizing your relationship with your child because that's the foundation for emotional well-begin. This aspect of parenting is based on love instead of fear. Most of us grew up with authoritarian parenting which is based on child's fear of losing the parent's love and permissive parenting based on parent's fear of losing the child's love.

To build a strong connection with your child, it starts early with responding with the infant's need. Try to create bonding with the child so that you can develop a secured attachment with them. Attachment parenting is the attention which we parents give to our children which in turn gives them a secured attachment. Connecting parenting helps parents create a close lifetime connection with their kids. It is the relationship you have with your child that makes you a better parent not a set of skills. You're a fine parent the way you are if you are in touch with your natural parenting instincts. Still so many parents find so much challenge in parenting. No amount of" parenting skills " can make up for a close parent-child relationship. A close bond not only want to make our kids want to please us, it gives us access to our natural parent know-how.

Every parent has a relationship with his or her child. The question is: what kind of relationship? Good or Bad? Prioritizing the connection with our kids means that we must put them first. We need to give them full attention by making every moment you stay with them worthwhile. Does this need to be the mother alone?  Parenting should be for both the Dad and Mum because each of them have different ways of relating with the child.

A good parent-child relationship gets you through the had times and create more frequent good times. It helps you to listen, learn from and meet the unique needs of your grown child. You can inflence your child positively, your child gets something even deeper like loving himself and others, have self confidence, integrity and self discipline. Connecting parenting keeps your family connected even as the pressure of daily life impinge on your time. 

NURTURING INTIMACY WITH YOUR CHILD.

 Intimacy is the glue that strengthens family bonds. Its what connects us over the years and across the miles. It's what gets us through the hard times. It's the grease that smooths the rough interactions of everyday life and the honey that makes it all worth it. In happy relationships between parents and children, bids are made and responded to warmly. It doesn't matter what the bid is all about, the process or reaching out and receiving response builds the relationship. This will in turn increase the level of trust so as to reach to the child again and the content of the bid deepens. The following are the secrets for the closer bond with our children. 

📍 Whenever possible, respond to the need of your child.

📍 Train yourself to respond with empathy, no matter what the comment is.

📍 Do not start with correction, always connect before you correct or connect.

📍 Try not to respond with anger when you fell you are being hurt by your child, instead acknowledge your vulnerability and hurt.

📍 Create a you and me time.

TYPES OF CHILDREN : PART 4

The serious child: 

They are logical, independent and focused. They act more matured than their age. They are not playful like other children. They can be rigid and inflexible when it comes to doing things. They are natural perfectionists. They are very good at criticism when proving a point. They like to arrange items in a specific row. Their slogan" let's see what this is, let's analyze it and i know a way to make it better". 

The best way to connect with a serious child is: 

* Understand what they are thinking rather than feeling.

* They like to be respected. Let them know you respect their thoughts and opinions. 

* Communicate to them in the way they will understand. 

* Ask for their opinions and solutions. 

TYPES OF CHILDREN : PART 3

The determined child

They are the most noticeable. They are naturally more physical, active and stubborn. They are born with a drive to get things done in their own specific ways. They are usually told to calm down or stop being so demanding. They always want to try leadership positions in school, home or work. They can be loud, forceful or straight to the point ( also seen as bluntly honest). Their slogan "let's get results ".

The best way to connect with a determined child :

* Don't struggle to reign them in, try giving them a bit more freedom to discover themselves.

* Cheer them on in their goals.

* Encourage their confidence and passion. 

* Don't question but try to offer help. 

TYPES OF CHILDREN : PART 2

The determined child

They are the most noticeable. They are naturally more physical, active and stubborn. They are born with a drive to get things done in their own specific ways. They are usually told to calm down or stop being so demanding. They always want to try leadership positions in school, home or work. They can be loud, forceful or straight to the point ( also seen as bluntly honest). Their slogan "let's get results ".

The best way to connect with a determined child :

* Don't struggle to reign them in, try giving them a bit more freedom to discover themselves.

* Cheer them on in their goals.

* Encourage their confidence and passion. 

* Don't question but try to offer help. 

TYPES OF CHILDREN: PART 1

The fun-loving children 

 They are bubbly, bright and social. They are full of ideas and are playful. Their energy can be seen as a fault when they don't want to sit still or when the interrupt to share their ideas. They are very curious and love to touch and explore. They love to make noise, laugh and play. They are creative / imaginative and are eager to please others. We parents can connect to them in the following ways :

* Praise their good ideas and encourage them. 

* Have fun with them (get down on their level if needs be)

* Give them freedom to explore and text out their creativity and idea. Chinyere. 

AREAS OF CHILD PSYCHOLOGY : PART 4

Socialization 

This involves acquiring the values, knowledge and skills that enables children to relate effectively and to contribute in positive ways to family, school and the community. This process starts shortly after birth and continues to adulthood. The crucial period for socialization is the age of early childhood. 

Socialization are in two phases: Firstly, relationship between parents and primary care giver. 

Secondly, between peer groups and fellow boys and girls. Once a child's social status is affected negatively, there will be difficulty in creating and maintaining satisfying relationships with others- a limitation many carry into adulthood. That child can change by engaging in socially constructive actions  (helping, caring and sharing with others) and developing a healthy sense of self. Chinyere

AREAS OF CHILD PSYCHOLOGY : PART 3

 Behaviour 

All children can be naughty, defiant and impulsive from time to time. Conflicts between parents and children are also inevitable as the latter struggle, from the “terrible twos” through adolescence, to assert their independence and develop their own identities. These behaviours are a normal part of the growing-up process. However, some children have extremely difficult and challenging behaviours that are outside the norm for their age. In fact, behavioural disorders are the most common reason that parents seek the help of child psychologists.

In some cases, these behavioural issues are temporary problems due largely to stressful situations, such as the birth of a siblings, divorce, or a death in the family. Other cases involve a pattern of sustained hostile, aggressive, or disruptive behaviours that are not appropriate for the child’s age. The most typical disruptive behaviour disorders include oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), conduct disorder (CD) and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). These three behavioural disorders share some common symptoms, and can be further exacerbated by emotional problems and mood disorders. Child psychology involves looking at all possible roots to these behavioural issues, including brain disorders, genetics, diet, family dynamics and stress, and then treating them accordingly. Chinyere. 

AREAS OF CHILD PSYCHOLOGY :PART 2

Milestones:This is used to measure a child's progress in life. They act as checkpoints in the child's development, to know what the average child is able to do at a particular age. For instance: at 12 months, a child should be able to stand and support his or her weight, and some can even walk. If a child is 18 months of age and still can't walk, then there has to be a problem.We have : 

a) Physical milestone - Physical development. 

b) Cognitive or mental milestone : Reasoning, learning and solving problems.

c) Social and emotional milestone: expressing emotions and response to social interaction. 

d) Communication and language milestones : Verbal and non-verbal communication.

AREAS OF CHILD PSYCHOLOGY : PART 1

Development : This aspect is divided into 3.

1) Physical development : Physical body changes that occurs in a child. Gradual transformation from a baby to a child, adolescent and then adult.

2) Cognitive  (intellectual ) development : The process children use to gain knowledge which includes : language, thought, reasoning and imagination. 

3) Social-emotional : Social development here means how a child relates with people while the emotional development involves feelings and the expression of feelings. It includes trust, fear, confidence, pride, friendship and humour. The three categories above work hand in hand in the development of a child. 

Methods of child training Part 4

 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child,but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22 :15 This method is the disciplinary method which includes flogging,scolding,punishment etc.A parent should know the particular one to use for a child when necessary or if necessary. Most parents misuse this method in the name of correction.  Not everything a child does attracts punishment. 

 Children have their differences,some might be scared of cane,some don't like to be scolded while some cannot endure punishment. Make your choice based on the disciplinary method they don't like. Remember,  spare the rod and spoil the child. Chinyere.

Methods of child training: Part 3

 Have you ever gone out to buy groceries and you came back without buying anything for a child? How does that child feel? You can imagine the look on the child's face.

 If this method is used (not giving the child gift item)when he/she disobeys,you can imagine what will happen. The child will feel so bad on one hand but on the other hand will not repeat the bad behaviour. You are not trying to deprive the child of his/her right,but making the child see that bad behaviour does not pay. Bad behaviour will not attract reward. Chinyere.

POSITIVE PARENTING : PARENT -CHILD RELATIONSHIP.

When it comes to family life, everyone strives to figure out how the relationship between parents and children can become ideal. Positive parenting techniques work well for raising children with discipline and good moral values, and are every parents’ dream. However, it is not an easy feat. And it is important to know that the parent child relationship is a two-way street, in other words, it is actually a partnership between a parent and their child.

A garden with different flowers becomes beautiful when it blossoms. Similarly, if parents learn how to be a ‘gardener’ and are able to recognize their child’s personality and nourish it, then their ‘garden’ will become fragrant! This is what positive parenting is all about!

When parents develop effective parenting skills, they are able to take the initiative in filling the generation gap. When parents start to understand the balance of where to place boundaries, where to encourage, and where to discourage, then their children will not get spoiled. In this way they become good parents. When people do not know how to be a good parent, distance between the two develops.

Every young adult has the potential power to help the entire world. He just needs the right guidance and support.

With proper understanding, youth can also strengthen their relationship with their parents.

Methods of child training Part 2

  Most children hate the words"I won't play with you again, You won't be my friend again". This method can go a long way for those in ages 3-5 years. When the child does something bad, you use these words. 

  I have a 3 years old boy and whenever he does something bad , I use the words on him. The next minute he apologizes "Mummy I won't do it again. Are you my friend?"You all know what the reply will be.Every child wants to be Daddy or Mummy's friend. The child knows if i do something bad , Daddy and Mummy will not be my friend.This method serves like a check mate. Win that child at a tender age.  Chinyere.

Methods of child training part 1

In child training,there are different methods we use.The method working for me might not be the one working for you. You need to know the one that works perfectly well and use it.

 In parenting, we need to be firm on our decisions. For instance, you give your child an instruction not to go out to play.He/she keeps begging for your permission, you letting him/her go means you are not firm in your decision.Your child might think you are not being fair to him/her.Next time when you give instructions, your child will learn to obey it because he/she knows you will say no.Being firm does not mean you are being strict or rigid.Put your feet down when necessary. Chinyere 

Child Training

There is this popular poem titled" My Mother". Who sat and watched my infant head, when sleeping on my cradle bed, and tears of sweet affection shed?  My Mother. Every child needs someone to look up to. Chinyere.

Training a chid

Child Training is not a job left for one person to do. It is a joint effort from positive minds.( People that will affect the child positively). Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it. Your life style is enough instrument in child training. Your child's future is in your hand. Chinyere.

Children's day celebration

Children are heritage from the Lord. A gift given to mankind by God. Every child is being celebrated on a day like this every year 27th May. On a day like this ,so many activities are done like match past, fun fares, and lot more. Some children go to stadium, some to amusement park while some stay at home from school which most children like.

Looking at the pandemic world wide,I wonder what today's  children's day will look like. Parent's please make today a memorable day for them. There are so many things you can do to celebrate your child. Just think of something and make them happy. You could buy them things or play games with them or even make them match round the compound. HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY. Chinyere